Quiet Time?

So many mothers are making their children have “quiet time” after they have out grown naps. The mothers claim it is because they need their mommy time. I guess I do not understand this practice. You are a mother, when you became pregnant you lost that right to time to yourself during the day.

Being a stay at home mom I know the stress involved with being around your children constantly, but even that does not make me send them to their room and force them to stay in their beds so I can do what I want. My feelings have always been that you should not do anything to your children that you would not like done to yourself. For me personally this includes being put in my room where I have to sit in my bed because someone else is needing to be alone for an hour.

I wish that some one would do a study on this practice to see if it was in some way wrong. It seems that the only way that most mothers will stop doing something is because some “expert” says to. Personally I know that my children are all different and that no “expert” that has wrote a book knows exactly how to deal with them, but again, unfortunately there are those that believe the books are right. (I’ll save that for a rant another day though)

My point is that why send your child to their room so you can have mommy time, when you wouldn’t like it if your DH/SO or child said you need to go to your room and lay in your bed for an hour so I can be alone.

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let kids be kids

I have learned a lot since joining a social networking site that is just for moms. Mainly that I am glad that I am not an uptight mom that freaks if my kids get dirty, sick, or eat something that isn’t organic! But there are a lot of other things also. I for one am shocked at the amount of moms out there that really have no clue what is going on. They don’t realize that just because today that is what your doctor says is right and good, doesn’t mean that the next time you have a baby that will be the same. More than likely what you are doing with #1 will be wrong by the time #2 comes around, and completely outdated by the time you have #3 or more! Why can’t we go back to letting kids be kids, and for us to start going with our instincts instead of what some doctor writes in a book? I’ve seen moms freak because their child wasn’t following what a book said they should be, or because they are trying to follow the book, but since their child is an individual they get frustrated because they won’t conform to the ideas of some one who has never met their child
Is this what we really want our children to be. Exact text book examples of each other? From where I stand, I see way to much conforming to the standard and not enough individuals if we keep parenting this way. Personally I am glad that my children are all different, and that they do not conform to the standard that some doctor wrote in a book.