Zombie Post Monday: Road Kill and Capes

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This post was originally published in August after a conversation with my oldest, and more fashionable, daughter.

Road Kill and Capes

Posted on August 26, 2010 by fallnangel | Edit
Dead hedgehog (roadkill) at the side of a road.

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My daughter has informed me that I am “So not in style Mom”.  So I might have shirts that I still wear from the 90′s, and I might be stuck in a continuous circle of tees, hoodies, and jeans.  It wasn’t until she looked at me and with a look of horror on her face asked “You aren’t wearing THAT today are you?” that I thought that I might need to update my look a little.

The newest line of clothing I’m thinking may be my answer to making her realise that what I wear isn’t that bad.  Ke$sha is the latest pop diva with her own clothing line.  She wants to bring back the cape and honor animals killed on the side of the road by using them in her clothing line.  “I’m trying really hard to bring back capes. They’ve been out since the 1800s, it’s about time they came back.” Ke$sha said in an MTV interview.

Aside from attempting to look like a preschooler pretending to be superman, there will also be roadkill and recycled feathers being used in her clothes.  “I do [design my own stuff] and I work with people that help me,” she said. “For instance they designed this hat. We find roadkill and put it on my clothes and recycled feathers.” She also added that “I think it’s important not to kill animals. I also think it’s an honor to the animal if it’s already dead and sitting on the side of a highway. I might as well wear it on MTV.”  Well if she’s looking for road kill to wear, she should be looking on my road ( please see Crazy woodland creatures) enough of them decide to end their lives in front of my truck, including a opposum just a few hours ago.

If this is what the young people of today are wearing, I think I’m going to stick with my cotton shirts and jeans.  No offense to Ke$sha but I don’t think that I’ll look good in a raccoon tank top.  Although I might go ahead and get a deer cape and hedgehog hat  just so the next time my daughter asks me if I’m wearing my favorite hawaiian shirt to drop her off at cheer, I can go put it on and take her wearing the latest thing instead of embarrassing her by being out of style.

To the Tea Party, why you shouldn’t cut Social Security

Social Security Torn Away

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I understand the Tea Party wishing to cut government spending.  I do believe that the spending of our government has gotten out of control and something does need to be done about it.  unfortunately cutting Social Security for those under age 55 is not the way to go about it.  The way to fix this country is not to take money away from those people whom cannot work.

People who are on Social Security under the age of 55 are the ones that need this money the most.  For many Social Security is their only income, the only way that they have to support themselves, and in my honest opinion most of the time it is not enough.  With the amount of medical bills that some of these people have, sometimes their Social Security all goes to doctors, pharmacies, and hospitals.  Some cannot even support themselves with what they are paid each month.  If anything, for these people, it needs to be raised.

Anyone who has gone through the process of attempting to receive Social Security disability knows that it is not easy.  Not only must you have your doctor send in your medical records, you also have to see the governments doctors, they interview you and your family.  From start to finish the process takes 6 months or longer, and then most are denied.  I know first hand how frustrating the system is, after the interviews how you feel like you might not have given enough information, and how you feel helpless while waiting on a decision from the government to see if you are disabled enough in their eyes for them to decide that you can receive money so that you can support your family.  I have been in tears over the process all while taking care of my family and trying to figure out how I was going to buy things that my children needed while getting the medicines that my husband needed.

My husband was one of the lucky ones, the government decided that he was truly disabled on his first attempt at receiving benefits.  Although now we are waiting for him to be disabled 2 years so he can receive medical, which is a whole other problem.  We were lucky that we didn’t have to go to court and fight for his benefits, or that it took years for him to be approved.

My husband has Multiple Sclerosis, he had an attack in June 2009 that left him disabled.  He now walks with a cane, he has memory problems, his balance was affected, he still has some problems with his left hand, he now has panic attacks almost constantly, and his eye site was affected.  After being a stay at home mom for three years I was forced to look for a job in a horrible economy.  I luckily had 7 years of grocery experience, and was seen as valuable to groceries, so I was hired quickly.  I work midnights so that I can take care of him, drive him to appointments, attempt to make a normal life for my 3 young children, and be around to do things in the house and yard.  I am mother and father some times to my kids.  My son will probably never be able to play catch with his dad, instead he will remember his dad watching as he played catch with his mother.  My girls won’t have their dad put them on his shoulders so they can see something up high, as he is no longer steady enough to pick them up.  My kids will remember only mom there for crowded events due to their dads anxiety problems.

If Social Security is cut for disabled people under the age of 55 families that are already dealing with emotional strain of having a person with disabilities in the house will also be dealing with financial problems also.  Why should you put that added strain on them of not knowing how they will support their family?  The disabled people of this country already have enough things to worry about without this unnecessary addition of losing their incomes.  I only hope that there is enough people out there who understand this, and do not support the Tea Party for their stance on this issue.

Another child left alone

A mother holds up her child.

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I just heard about yet another child left home alone while their parents were out partying.  As a mother of 3 my heart goes out to this little one.  I’m sure that they were confused enough waking up in the middle of the night to find their mother gone, and then being placed into a home where they know no one makes it even worse.

I understand the pressure put on mothers today from society to be perfect.  It seems that unless you give up all of yourself people will label you a bad mother.  With all of the groups out there from the breast feeding militia, the rear facing till they are in their teens fanatics, the granola mommas cringing when you even think about sending chocolate chip cookies for snack day, the attachment parenting mommas who think you are horrible if you don’t spend every second with your child till they are married it is hard to figure how not to lose yourself.

I’m starting to wonder if we aren’t hearing more and more about these mothers leaving to go party because of them getting overwhelmed and losing themselves.  Today’s moms are being pushed more than ever to be the best parent 24 hours a day.  The internet is full of people with parenting criticism and perfect children who never once threw a tantrum because they didn’t want to go to bed.  You go to a site thinking that you can get help with your problem and instead are told how horrible it must be to think about getting a babysitter so you can go out for a night without your child. Or how you abandon your child all day for someone else to raise while you go to work.  Or my personal all time favorite Why did you even have a child if you were going to have someone else raise them.

I think that we need to step back and look at what we are doing to young mothers today.  There is a difference between putting information out there for mothers to make an informed decision and ramming the information down their throats to the point where they are scared if they give their child an M&M that they will be obese later in life.  We all have our causes that we feel strongly about, but we need to start figuring out new ways to get others in tune with our feelings. Putting each other down and telling someone else that they are a horrible mother just because they didn’t make the same decisions as you did in raising their children is something that no mother should do to another.

Of course there is the other side of the coin, that maybe these people are really just stupid.  Which brings up a couple of things that I feel strongly about…

first, you should have to pass a basic test in order to become a parent

second, stupid people shouldn’t reproduce (please refer to question one for more explanation)

Finally, they find evidence that ADHD is genetic

Brainscan of brains with and without ADHD

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Today I finally heard the press release that I have been waiting for my whole life.  A study has finally found that ADHD is genetic.  My Grandmother, Mother, or I could have told the scientists that did this study that was true before they spent millions on it.  I come from a very long line of ADHD people, and I myself have ADHD as do probably at least one of my kids, the jury’s still out on the other two.

Researchers have found that children with ADHD have more large, rare copy-number variants in their genes than children without the disease.  It looks like it will still be years before they can do a genetic test to see if your child is ADHD or just a normal child, if any child is normal, but the initial research has been done already, and I’m sure that someone is already working on how to genetically test for this.  This study is going to be able to get tied into other studies that are proving some diseases to be genetic.  These same variants have already been found to be genetic markers for predisposition to schizophrenia, autism, epilepsy, and other neuro diseases.

Males are more likely to posses these genetic variants than females are.  You would only have to take a look at my Grandfather, Uncle, Brothers, and Son to see that this is true.  I seem to be the only female in the family with ADHD, unless of course one of my girls or my brothers have girls and they end up having the family genes.  The shocking thing is that 1 in every 100 children have this disorder, and yet most parents think of it has a lack of discipline or a problem eating too much junk food.

The best thing about this research, to me at least, is that it proves that it isn’t what you are feeding your children that are making them hyperactive.  There was a study done in England that I saw a few years ago that disproved the theory that sugar makes children hyper.  Unfortunately a lot of parents it seems did not see the study and this rumor is still floating around the mom communities today.  If your child is already predisposed to have ADHD then if they eat a cupcake it isn’t going to make them more hyper

As an adult with ADHD I can give parents some advice on how to raise a child with ADHD so they become productive members of society.  The advice would be this “Invest in a house with a very large yard and a hyper active dog.”  My parents own 10 acres, every day it wasn’t below freezing I had my mother kicking us out of the house to get fresh air.  Now that I have my own ADHD child I know that it wasn’t for our benefit, it was for the benefit of my mothers sanity that she kicked us out.  I’m so glad that my kids like fresh air, and we have an acre yard.  Now I just need the hyper active dog, and I’ll be all set.

Americas fail at religion

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For a nation that 6 in 10 citizens say that religion is very important in their lives, a new survey by The Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life shows that the majority of Americans fail a test on religion.  For a country that was founded with the idea of religious freedom, we seem to know nothing about religions other than Christianity and the Bible as a whole.

The findings of this survey are in no way shocking to me.  I as a non-Christian I know that Christians seem to know the least when it comes to something that is different from their beliefs.  Most of them cannot even tell you the difference in the different Christian churches.  It saddened me to learn that in most cases 50% or less could tell you the correct answer to questions about their own religion.  Just under half didn’t know that the Golden Rule was not one of the 10 commandments.  You would think that since there is a movie on the 10 commandments that we could at least get that one right.

Are some of us so wrapped up in our own worlds that we cannot see past what the religious leader talking about in our various services is his interpretation of the holy book that he is reading excerpts from?  It seems to me that the majority of Americans cannot see past their little bubble that they are living in.  They take what they hear as law in their faith, and do not actually read anything to back it up.  They seem to be listening to someones opinion and getting in an uproar over a subject without knowing if it is true or not.  A great example would be the Churches that have spewed how horrible and wicked the Harry Potter book and movie series are for years now.  These people have obviously never picked up and actually read the books or watched the movies because they would then know that it’s not about magic, it is about good vs evil, doing the right thing, finding true friends, making hard personal decisions, and so many more positive messages.

I feel sad that my children are growing up in a country that most don’t know that the Quran is the holy book of the Muslims.  After all the press about the psycho, I mean pastor, in Florida going to burn one not to mention the uproar over the “Mosque at Ground Zero” you would think that the majority of people could have figured that one out.  How can people have their panties in such a bunch over something that they know nothing about?

I hope that this survey will open the eyes of Americans about the different religions that are in our country.  Maybe this will be the start of people not screaming about religious freedom or about how their religion is being suppressed.  Hopefully it will be a time in our lives where people of different faiths will learn about each others faith, and support those faiths as we do our own.  By learning about each others faiths we can see that many of them are not so different.  But this is America, land of the selfish, the self-centered, and the self absorbed, so my hope for religious tolerance and learning to be achieved during my lifetime is something I will not likely see.

Our favorite “all natural” ice cream may not be

Cherry garcia

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Another health advocacy group has decided to ruin one of women’s favorite snacks.  Ben and Jerry’s is the newest target on the not so healthy radar.  It seems that since they have the words “All Natural” on their products and some of those ingredients weren’t in raw form the Center for Science in the Public Interest (CSPI) is asking the ice cream makers to change their label.

Now I’m not sure who actually believed that any of their ice creams were healthy for you.  You might be able to get away with the cherries in Cherry Garcia, or the bananas in Chunky Monkey being healthy but with all that chocolate, no one was thinking that it was the best thing you could have grabbed at 4am when you needed a sweet fix.

With the CSPI winning a battle against my Half Baked ice cream, I’m starting to get a little annoyed with the health watch groups.  We all know that we shouldn’t be buying and consuming half of what we do.  As a nation our middles are growing and retired generals are trying to get school lunches to be healthier for the future defense of our country.  Has it really gotten to the point where we have to have everything labeled as either health food or junk in order for it to not come under fire from some group?

Everything in moderation is the key to a healthy lifestyle.  I don’t need 2 words taken off of my Ben and Jerry’s to tell me that it’s not all natural, most of us probably never even noticed that they were on there in the first place.  So thank you CSPI for making me aware that ice cream was not all natural.  Now if you will excuse me, I have a carton of ice cream to eat.

Zombie Post Monday

After a long weekend with sick kids, work, and oh ya hubby to deal with I saw this over at Real Life with Kids and instantly knew what todays blog post was going to be lol

I orginaly wrote this little rant about Ranch Dressing after a trip to the grocery back in May

Why do we need so many different kinds of ranch dressing? Off the top of my head I can think of peppercorn ranch, hot and spicy ranch, cheesy ranch, 3 cheese ranch, italian cheese ranch, cucumber ranch, fat free, low fat, light, and of course original. There are several that I am missing from this list I’m sure. I’m really just confused on why we need this many different kinds of ranch dressing. I have enough going through my brain without having 20 different varieties of ranch dressing to choose from when I go to the store. It never fails that if I have everyone with me I manage to not grab original, and don’t realize it till I get home. Maybe I should switch to french, they don’t seem to mess with it like they do ranch.