Bottom line, the sick kids get the raw end


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I was excited to see some sort of health care reformed passed.  With my husband having Multiple Sclerosis, he is seen as having a preexisting condition and is basically uninsurable.  We were lucky that I found a job before his insurance ran out and they were forced to accept him.  The down side to this is that most people who are hourly in jobs are now hired in as part-time and are offered “mini meds” plans.  These plans only will cover a couple thousand dollars per person.  Which if you have someone with a health issue these plans are basically kibosh.

Obama’s health plan wanted to do away with mini meds plans, and with preexisting conditions.  This would help out not only those in my situation with a sick spouse, but also those with sick children.  The plan is set to be completely in effect by 2014, the first phase of the plan was to be in place by the end of the year.  Unfortunately corporations and insurance companies are applying for waivers to not have to put the first phase in to effect just quiet yet.  One such corporation is Mc Donalds, who is saying that the regulations would strip employees of their existing coverage. The reason Mc Donalds is stating it would strip them of their existing coverage is that they, much like most employers, are not offering their employees what this piece of legislation has deemed the bear minimum of coverage that they must offer.  So they would be forced to find a different plan to offer their employees that would meet the minimum requirements set.

Insurance carries are threating to stop selling new policies for children in some states.  They are stating that the new regulations would not protect them from having to cover too many sick children.  As a mother, I do not see how an insurance company could ever publicly admit that it does not want to cover sick children!  Parents have enough to worry about if they have a sick child without adding the fact that insurance companies do not want to take on more children for fear that they would not make money off of them.

I was hoping that we could have an easy transition into the new health care plan.  I see now that we are going to have to fight tooth and nail to end this kibosh the insurance companies and corporations are giving us.  A company as successful as Mc Donalds should have no problem handling to pay more in insurance premiums.  I have a feeling that these companies that are applying for waivers forget that with better insurance comes healthier employees and employees families.  Children can be better taken care of with better insurance resulting in less days parents call in because their children are sick.

Now I know that some children have cancer, Congenital heart disease, Muscular dystrophy, Leukemia, and many other things that are very costly.  Can these insurance companies and corporations actually say that they can just turn their backs on these children?  Insurance companies, pharmaceutical companies, and malpractice suits have driven the cost of health care to outrageous prices.  One of my husband’s medications is $2,500 a month, which of course our insurance provider will not cover.  So I do feel some of the pain that parents of sick children do financially, but still can not fathom the emotions they go through.

It is sad that the insurance companies are flat-out saying that they don’t want to cover these children.  These families did not ask for their children to be sick.  They did not ask to have to pay thousand upon thousands of dollars so their child can have a chance at life.  I think that it is the least these people fighting against insurance reform could do is make sure that these children are covered.

I do not usually ask my readers for anything, but in this case I’m going to.  I would like for the powers in charge to know that we as Americans do not approve of this kibosh, I encourage you all to write to the administration, your congressmen, your state governors even to put a stop to the waivers.  It is time for all Americans from the youngest to the oldest to be allowed to have good medical coverage, especially those families that have sick children.

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Another child left alone

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I just heard about yet another child left home alone while their parents were out partying.  As a mother of 3 my heart goes out to this little one.  I’m sure that they were confused enough waking up in the middle of the night to find their mother gone, and then being placed into a home where they know no one makes it even worse.

I understand the pressure put on mothers today from society to be perfect.  It seems that unless you give up all of yourself people will label you a bad mother.  With all of the groups out there from the breast feeding militia, the rear facing till they are in their teens fanatics, the granola mommas cringing when you even think about sending chocolate chip cookies for snack day, the attachment parenting mommas who think you are horrible if you don’t spend every second with your child till they are married it is hard to figure how not to lose yourself.

I’m starting to wonder if we aren’t hearing more and more about these mothers leaving to go party because of them getting overwhelmed and losing themselves.  Today’s moms are being pushed more than ever to be the best parent 24 hours a day.  The internet is full of people with parenting criticism and perfect children who never once threw a tantrum because they didn’t want to go to bed.  You go to a site thinking that you can get help with your problem and instead are told how horrible it must be to think about getting a babysitter so you can go out for a night without your child. Or how you abandon your child all day for someone else to raise while you go to work.  Or my personal all time favorite Why did you even have a child if you were going to have someone else raise them.

I think that we need to step back and look at what we are doing to young mothers today.  There is a difference between putting information out there for mothers to make an informed decision and ramming the information down their throats to the point where they are scared if they give their child an M&M that they will be obese later in life.  We all have our causes that we feel strongly about, but we need to start figuring out new ways to get others in tune with our feelings. Putting each other down and telling someone else that they are a horrible mother just because they didn’t make the same decisions as you did in raising their children is something that no mother should do to another.

Of course there is the other side of the coin, that maybe these people are really just stupid.  Which brings up a couple of things that I feel strongly about…

first, you should have to pass a basic test in order to become a parent

second, stupid people shouldn’t reproduce (please refer to question one for more explanation)

Finally, they find evidence that ADHD is genetic

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Today I finally heard the press release that I have been waiting for my whole life.  A study has finally found that ADHD is genetic.  My Grandmother, Mother, or I could have told the scientists that did this study that was true before they spent millions on it.  I come from a very long line of ADHD people, and I myself have ADHD as do probably at least one of my kids, the jury’s still out on the other two.

Researchers have found that children with ADHD have more large, rare copy-number variants in their genes than children without the disease.  It looks like it will still be years before they can do a genetic test to see if your child is ADHD or just a normal child, if any child is normal, but the initial research has been done already, and I’m sure that someone is already working on how to genetically test for this.  This study is going to be able to get tied into other studies that are proving some diseases to be genetic.  These same variants have already been found to be genetic markers for predisposition to schizophrenia, autism, epilepsy, and other neuro diseases.

Males are more likely to posses these genetic variants than females are.  You would only have to take a look at my Grandfather, Uncle, Brothers, and Son to see that this is true.  I seem to be the only female in the family with ADHD, unless of course one of my girls or my brothers have girls and they end up having the family genes.  The shocking thing is that 1 in every 100 children have this disorder, and yet most parents think of it has a lack of discipline or a problem eating too much junk food.

The best thing about this research, to me at least, is that it proves that it isn’t what you are feeding your children that are making them hyperactive.  There was a study done in England that I saw a few years ago that disproved the theory that sugar makes children hyper.  Unfortunately a lot of parents it seems did not see the study and this rumor is still floating around the mom communities today.  If your child is already predisposed to have ADHD then if they eat a cupcake it isn’t going to make them more hyper

As an adult with ADHD I can give parents some advice on how to raise a child with ADHD so they become productive members of society.  The advice would be this “Invest in a house with a very large yard and a hyper active dog.”  My parents own 10 acres, every day it wasn’t below freezing I had my mother kicking us out of the house to get fresh air.  Now that I have my own ADHD child I know that it wasn’t for our benefit, it was for the benefit of my mothers sanity that she kicked us out.  I’m so glad that my kids like fresh air, and we have an acre yard.  Now I just need the hyper active dog, and I’ll be all set.

Lesson to mothers….

We all know the mothers that over react to everything.  The ones that think allowing another child to bring cupcakes to school for their birthday will lead to their child being over weight.  The reason that we don’t keep score during children’s games, and everyone gets a trophy.  And my all time favorite, the ones that think CPS should be called because you don’t have your child in bubble wrap attached to your hip 24 hours a day until they are married.

One group is taking a stand against these mothers.  I applaud the Madison Heights Wolverines Cheerleading Squad for finally showing one of these mothers that going over the top is not encouraged.  I do feel bad for the little girl that isn’t allowed to be on the team due to her mothers actions.  I also am sad that her mother had to embarrass her by going to the media, and making a huge deal over, in my opinion, nothing.  I can understand Jennifer Tesch’s frustration with not liking something that was going on.  But after she was told that this cheer had been done for 20 years, why take it to the media over something so small?  Not to mention that people don’t pay attention to cheerleaders during football games, they are there to watch the football game.

Parents of children are becoming more and more involved which can be a good thing.  Unfortunately we also get those parents that feel that they should be the center of attention, instead of the true reason behind activities which is kids having fun and learing to work together.  I’m hoping that with this one organizations stand against over the top parents more will follow suit, I doubt that will happen, but I can at least hope.